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A K & P adventure of a different sort: Breaking the pattern

2012-01-23T11:53:00.000-08:00

Pina & I in the lobby of Feinstein's

In our quest for adventure, Pina and I have tackled the heights of zip lining, the waves of surfing, the spotlight at halftime at the Big East Tournament, but this month we decided on an adventure of a different sort.

Our parameters are broad. It could be something we've never done, a place we've never been, it doesn't really matter as long it provides a new experience. After all isn't life simply a collection of experiences?

So last night we headed to Park Avenue in NYC to Michael Feinstein's swanky Loews Regency Night Club.

Now I've never been there, so that makes it an adventure already. In fact, I'm sure I've never been to anything remotely resembling the description on their website - "next generation of great supper clubs."

But hey it was a chance to dress up, sip wine, enjoy scrumptious appetizers (the flat bread was heaven!!) and listen to the beautiful sounds of Caroline Jones. You can check out her music here. The evening was just lovely (and complements of Mr. Paul Tudor Jones I should add. Thank you Mr. Jones!).

The real adventure however, involved breaking a pattern. You see, this event didn't even start until 8:30 pm. In New York City. On a Sunday night. Not only is a late night like that way past my bed time, but on a school night to boot!

By 8:30 pm on Sunday nights I'm tucked into my flannel pj's, buried in the Sunday paper, or maybe a basket of laundry. But putting on my party shoes and heading to Manhattan. Uh, no.

How many times do we label ourselves, our habits? Like, "I don't go out on Sunday nights." Someone in fact used that very line when I mentioned where I was headed.

What's your label? What is the pattern that you wouldn't consider breaking. I challenge you to reconsider.

Then break the pattern. Maybe not all the time, but just once.

I'm glad I broke the pattern and went out on school night for a bit of an adventure, even if it means I may need a second cup of coffee this afternoon. New venue, new artist (buying her CD today!), new friends, and did I mention the flat bread?

Learning to Sit Alone, in a Quiet Empty Room

2012-01-21T07:20:00.000-08:00

On this chilly snowy morning, I find my mind making lists of how to spend the first snow day of the year. As I wander through the time suck known as the internet, I came across this insightful article by Leo Babuata from Zen Habits. He's always got something thought provoking to share.

His words strike a chord with me. While I always rated high on "plays well with others," the idea of sitting alone doesn't sit well with me. It's a habit I'm trying to cultivate, even if just through my simple ten minute morning meditations.

Perhaps today is the time to carve out some nothing time. Being, not doing.

My favorite spot in my office. Perfect for some solitude.

‘All men’s miseries derive from not being able to sit in a quiet room alone.’

~Blaise Pascal

Post written by Leo Babauta.

Think about some of the problems of our daily lives, and how many of them would be eased if we could learn to sit alone, in a quiet empty room, with contentment.

If you’re content to sit alone quietly, you don’t need to eat junk food, to shop on impulse, to buy the latest gadget, to be on social media to see what everyone else is talking about or doing, to compare yourself to others, to make more money to keep up with the Joneses, to achieve glory or power, to conquer other lands or wage war, to be rude or violent to others, to be selfish or greedy, to be constantly busy or productive.

You are content, and need nothing else. It solves a lot of problems.

Can you sit alone in an empty room? Can you enjoy the joy of quiet?

Most of us have trouble sitting alone, quietly, doing nothing. We have the need to do something, to check our inboxes and social media, to be productive. Sitting still can be difficult if you haven’t cultivated the habit.

I’ve been learning. In the morning, as my coffee is brewing, I sit. Even for a few minutes, at first, it is instructive. You learn to listen to your thoughts, to be aware of your urges to do something else, to plan and set goals. You learn to watch yourself, but to just sit still and not act on those urges. You learn to be content with stillness.

You learn to savor the quiet. It’s something most of us don’t have, quiet, and it takes some getting used to. When we’re driving our cars or out exercising or eating or working, we have music playing or we talk with people or we have the television on. Quiet can be amazing, though, because it helps us calm down, contemplate, slow down to savor the emptiness.

An empty room, too, is a luxury. I try to empty my room of clutter, so that it’s fairly bare. That leaves only me, and the room is a blank slate ready to be filled with me, my creativity, my silence. I love a spartan room.

Being alone is another pleasure we too often neglect. When we are alone, we go on the Internet or TV to see what else is going on, what others are doing or saying, instead of just being alone. This isolation is a necessary thing, that allows us to find ourselves, to learn to be content with little instead of always wanting more.

Can you practice being alone, being still, being quiet? Just a little at first, then perhaps a bit more. Listen, watch, learn about yourself. Find contentment. Need nothing more.

It's beginning to look a lot like winter

2012-01-17T05:42:00.000-08:00

Courtesy of Pinterest

The dusting of snow his morning has reminded me that it is actually winter, despite the teaser days of 40 plus degree weather of late. For me winter brings images of cozy flannel pj's, a cup of tea and an engaging book.

Each season I make a wish list of experiences to relish and enjoy. I find it helps me to fully embrace the season and hopefully take me away from my business goal list and household projects.

Looking back at my fall wish list, I see that sanding and staining the wooden bench still lingers untouched, but perhaps another time.

It'd be much easier to wish it away (I much prefer warmer temps) but then, I've come to realize that wishing time away doesn't make for a very rich life.

My winter wish list...

Have a pj day - looking for one good snowstorm and an excuse to stay in pjs all day
Enjoy my new soup cookbook by experimenting with as many different soups as possible
Bring more creativity into my life (something I've been reflecting on for awhile and worthy of its' own blog post so more on that later)
Teach yoga once a week - even though this is actually work related, this has been a personal desire as well
Plan a special birthday celebration for my hubby (who's hitting the big 5-0).
Cook an Indian feast with my friend Sandra (we've been threatening to get together to cook Indian food and drink wine for ages, it's time to make it happen)
Try something completely out of my comfort zone
Be gentle on myself and let some things simply run their course

What's on your winter wish list?

I invite you to post below as you may just inspire someone to do or try something to make their winter a bit more beautiful.

Can I get a round of 'spirit fingers' for these gals?

2012-01-11T06:54:00.000-08:00

Under the heading of "its never too late" I was inspired reading about the Sun City Poms.

As a cheerleader from Middle School through College, the sight of shimmering pom poms and the sound of a marching band always brings a smile to my face. These young-at-heart gals, ranging in age from 62-78 take that inspiration to a new level. Performing nationally, they defy the notion that women of "a certain age" have to be sedentary and sit on the side lines.

Their website touts them as talented, vibrant and inspirational.

They are a no doubt a vibrant example that it's always good to put on something a little sparkly and kick up your heels.

We're a "Must Do"

2012-01-05T11:55:00.000-08:00

As a perennial list maker, I get very excited about lists, especially those that challenge me to take action. Seven Habits of Highly Effective People, Six Ways to Blast Belly Fat, Eight Steps to Spiritual Enlighlment, Ten Power Foods.....you get the picture, I'm on it!

So it was a great honor to learn that my business made Stamford Magazine's list of 50 Reasons We Love Our City: Things You Must See, Must Do, Must Eat.

Our Jazzercise classes are a Must Do!

That, as my dad would have said, is a no brainer! We all need exercise every day, so why not choose something that's effective AND fun. I mean who wants to be bored to death schlepping along on the treadmill?

And what serendipitous timing with our Semi Annual Sale January 7-9th when you can join for NO $$$.

No Joining Fee,

No payment for January.

Just dance, and sweat, and sing along to PitBull and......

Put it on your list today.....or better yet, just DO it!

What are you waiting for? You've got 49 other things on the list to tackle!

Don't let perfect be the enemy of good

2012-01-04T08:28:00.000-08:00

During 2011 I participated in my first book club.

We only read one book for the entire year, so it was a low key, "underachiever's" book club. And despite the low bar in terms of reading, I got a monthly dose of inspiration and sharing from my fellow participants. It was my regular fix of "so I'm not alone in feeling that!"

Our choice was "The Happiness Project" by Gretchen Ruben. The experience really did make me happy. I tried many of Gretchen's suggestions and enjoyed her bits of wisdom.

One great nugget was her advice "don't let perfect be the enemy of the good." Boy did she have my number with that one. I can tend to be a perfectionist sometimes, except when it comes to ironing, and so often I slide into the mantra, "well if I can't do it perfectly, why bother."

Gretchen had some great tips about getting exercise, undoubtedly a way to up your happiness quotient (while reducing road rage as well).

Today I'm 'borrowing' Gretchen's blog post. I hope you enjoy and also get out and exercise today.

Learn more about Gretchen and The Happiness Project.

12 Tips for Getting Regular Exercise -- and the Benefits for Happiness and Fitness.

Exercise is a KEY to happiness. Research shows that people who exercise are healthier, more energetic, think more clearly, sleep better, and have delayed onset of dementia. They get relief from anxiety and mild depression. They perform better at work.

Also, although it’s tempting to flop down on the couch when you’re feeling exhausted, exercise is actually a great way to boost energy levels. Feeling tired is a reason to exercise, not a reason to skip exercise.

But even when you admit that you’d feel better if you exercised, it can be very hard to adopt the habit. My idea of fun has always been to lie in bed, reading, preferably while also eating a snack – but I’ve managed to keep myself exercising over the years by using all these tricks on myself:

1. Always exercise on Monday. This sets the psychological pattern for the week. Along the same lines…

2. If at all possible, exercise first thing in the morning. As the day wears on, you’ll find more excuses to skip exercising. Get it checked off your list, first thing. It's also a very nice way to start the day; even if nothing else goes right, you've accomplished that.

3. Never skip exercising for two days in a row. You can skip a day, but the next day, you must exercise, no matter how inconvenient. (Lately, I haven't been following this rule, and it has really affected my routine for the worse. I'm going to re-double my commitment to it.)

4. Give yourself credit for the smallest effort. My father always said that all he had to do was put on his running shoes and close the door behind him. Many times, by promising myself I could quit ten minutes after I’d started, I got myself to start – and then found that I didn’t want to quit, after all.

5. Think about context. I thought I disliked weight-training, but in fact, I disliked the guys who hung out in the weight-training area. Are you distressed about the grubby showers in your gym? Do you try to run in the mornings, but recoil from going out in the cold? Examine the factors that might be discouraging you from exercising.

6. Exercise several times a week. If your idea of exercise is to join games of pick-up basketball, you should be playing practically every day. Twice a month isn’t enough.

7. If you don’t have time both to exercise and take a shower, find a way to exercise that doesn’t require you to shower afterward. Each week, I have a very challenging weight-training session, but the format I follow doesn’t make me sweat. (Some of you are saying, “It can’t be challenging if you don’t sweat!” Oh yes, believe me, it is.)

8. Look for affordable ways to make exercising more pleasant or satisfying. Could you upgrade to a nicer or more convenient gym? Buy yourself a new iPod? Work with a trainer? Get a pedometer to keep track of your walking distances? Exercise is a high life priority, so this a worthwhile place to spend some money if that helps.

9. Think of exercise as part of your essential preparation for times you want to be in especially fine form -- whether in performance (to be sharp for an important presentation) or appearance (to look good for a wedding) or mood (to deal with a stressful situation). In college, my roommates and I always made sure to exercise the day of a big party. Studies show that exercise does help.

10. Remember one of my favorite Secrets of Adulthood, courtesy of Voltaire: Don’t let the perfect be the enemy of the good. Don’t decide it’s only worth exercising if you can run five miles or if you can bike for an hour. I have a friend who scorns exercise unless she’s training for a marathon -- so she never exercises. Even going for a ten-minute walk is worthwhile. Do what you can.

11. Suit up. Even if you're not sure you're going to exercise, go ahead and put on your exercise clothes. Pack your bag. Put the dog's leash by the door. Get prepared. If you're ready to go, you might find it easier just to go ahead and exercise. Sometimes, a very trivial thing -- like not knowing where your shoes are -- gets in the way.

12. Don’t kid yourself. Paying for a gym membership doesn’t mean you go to the gym. Having been in shape in high school or college doesn’t mean you’re in shape now. Saying that you don’t have time to exercise doesn’t make it true.

People often ask me, “So if I want to be happier, what should I be doing?” and I always say, “The first thing to do is to make sure you’re getting plenty of sleep and some exercise.”

I know, that answer doesn’t sound properly transcendent and high-minded on the subject of happiness, but research shows that you’d be wise to start there. And I’ve found that if I’m feeling energetic and well-rested, I find it much easier to follow all my other happiness-inducing resolutions.

Thanks Gretchen!

PS Our 2012 book is The Not So Big Life: Making Room for What Really Matters by Sarah Susanka. Join us the last Tuesday of every month at 10:30 am AFTER you exercise of course.

A bit from Buddha to get you going....

2012-01-02T06:44:00.000-08:00

There are two fatal errors that keep great things from coming to life:

1. Not finishing
2. Not starting

Buddha

How many times have you told yourself it's not a good time to stet exercising, lose weight, look for a new job, get out of that toxic relationship...fill in the blank.

For some reason we feel we must wait until all the planets are in alignment and the laundry is done (folded and put away no less.). But if we wait for perfect conditions, nothing will happen.

Beginning makes the conditions perfect.

Start today.

The big & the small: In 2011 I.....

2011-12-30T14:51:00.000-08:00

A few moments in 2011

This is the weekend everyone reflects on the highlights of the year. Many of us have our year end rituals. We celebrate the highs, vow to move past the lows and look with promise to a fresh start.

This morning while journaling, I began a list of 100 things I am grateful for in 2011 (a tip from Fabienne Fredrickson in one of her recent e-zines) I'm still working on it and plan to finish the list tomorrow.

When I ponder the pieces that created the sum of my year, more than the adventures and events, I ask myself about the people woven throughout my year. Have I been a good friend? A decent boss? A loving spouse? A supportive step mother?

In addition to nurturing my current relationships, I always wonder if I've made any new friendships during the year.

This year the answer was a resounding yes. My life changing adventure to China this summer with the Yale Alumni Services Corp brought countless special people into my life. From my 200 fellow travelers, to over 1300 students, to the countless others we met along the way,

While it's unlikely I'll ever see any of the children again, there are without a doubt a few special people who I will always call friends. And for that I'm especially grateful.

The big and the small, here are a few things that shaped 2011 for me.

(in NO particular order)

Started wearing mascara
Climbed the Great Wall of China
Welcomed a new nephew into the world
Made jam for the first time (blueberry)
Tried my hand at fencing
Mourned the loss of an amazing inspirational woman
Learned how to eat with chopsticks
Skyped for the first time
Sipped tea at The Plaza
Watched my lovely stepdaughter go to the Prom
Went horseback riding
Read 50 books
Performed at half time at the Big East tournament
Took the summer off from golf due to an elbow injury
Went on National T.V. wearing a sports bra
Met an incredible group of people from Yale
Took a pizza making class
Was a guest on a radio show (twice)
Hosted a Little Black Dress party
Took Belly Dancing
Dined by candlelight during Hurricane Irene
Was in a car accident (thankfully not my fault!)
Mentored a new instructor and said good bye to a few others
Became an OpZomist :)
Corresponded with two student pen pals from China
Biked 42 miles in the Five Boro Bike Tour
Did yoga on the beach in Aruba
Launched a new website
Received an iPad from my hubby and got hooked
Got a great chair and ottoman for my office and finally ditched the old loveseat
Started a regular meditation practice
Tried Laughter Yoga during my annual retreat to Kripalu
Bought my own Reiki table
Was on the cover of a magazine

Year's end is neither an end nor a beginning but a going on, with all the wisdom that experience can instill in us. Cheers to a new year and another chance for us to get it right.
- Oprah Winfrey

Cheers indeed!

Tell others you care about them:

2011-12-27T13:27:00.000-08:00

From Pinterest

I am sitting at my desk right now listening to the press conference about the horrific tragedy that occurred in our area on Christmas morning. Everyone is talking about it, yet there are no words.

It is almost impossible to scrape up any goodness from this.

All I can say is this.....

Too often we just assume that others knowhow we feel about them, but are you sure they know?

Or perhaps we rush out the door and don't take the time to give a kiss good-bye and tell someone we love them.

There's no harm in tellingthem as often as you can how you feel again and again.

It never gets old.

And if by chance younever get another chance you'll be happy that you did.

Go hug someone and tell them you care.

How big can the regret be?

2011-12-23T04:28:00.001-08:00

Yesterday I enjoyed a lovely lunch in Manhattan with three super classy, smart women. I met them in the mid 90's when our paths intersected professionally, and I have been mentored by them (whether they realized it or not) both professionally and personally, and looked to them as role models ever since.

While individually we may see one another more often, it's been ten years since all four of us have sat down together.

Of course given the rarity of the occasion, the nature of the season, and the fact that at least three of us were off that day, Cindy suggested a glass of wine, and Rose and I quickly gave our seal of approval.

Polly debated (she was not the one going back to work, and for the record, neither was I ), not sure if a glass of wine in the middle of the day would make her too tired.

Rose immediately asked, " How big could the regret be?"

Well, that sold Polly on a glass of wine, and it really stuck with me.

How often do I hem and haw about something, wasting precious time and energy? Sure some decisions require careful deliberation, because the regret could potentially be significant. I'm weighting one of those types of decisions right now in fact.

But a lot of decisions are given far more mental energy and pondering than necessary. I'm going to make that question a regular part of my decision making and thought process.

Why just this morning my mind is whirling with the usual dilemmas. Take time to go to yoga or not? Serve salmon on Christmas Eve or a different fish? Pick up the bread today or wait until the craziness of tomorrow morning? And the mind chatter continues to roll.

As I traveled home from this beautiful gathering, I realized once again being in the presence of these women inspires and teaches me.

And the only big regret, we all agreed, would be not making time to get together more often. -

Passion & purpose: A true legacy

2011-12-15T08:55:00.000-08:00


My mom & I with MayMarie in her prized garden

A few months ago, we lost an amazing and inspirational woman, MayMarie Conte. She was a long time customer, a friend, and over the years had become an avid pen pal with my grandmother. They had met and hit it off sometime in the mid 90's and kept up an ongoing correspondence for years.

At the time, some people asked if I was going to write a blog about her. Seems that all major life events are commemorated in social media these days, as if the cyber world brings us some closure.

I didn't write anything. My choice was to mourn quietly.

This week I had the honor of being invited by two of MayMarie's friends to come over to her home before the last of her belongings were to be taken away. An estate sale had been held earlier this fall, but again, I opted not to attend, preferring my memories to any trinkets I could have purchased from her life.

I was grateful when her friend Barbara gave me a few of her beautiful belongings to remember her by, but more than that I was struck by something Barbara shared.

She said MayMarie had been cremated wearing her scrubs and a Jazzercise Breast Cancer Fundraiser t-shirt.

The first thing that came to my mind were the words.... Passion & Purpose.

As in life, her choice at the end was to go forth with passion & purpose.

MayMarie was the consummate nurse. It was her vocation, but it was also her passion. Nursing was her purpose on this earth.

She was also a breast cancer survivor. Maintaining her health was paramount and she exercised regularly, which included fifteen years of Jazzercise workouts. Jazzercise was one of her many passions and she no doubt did it with purpose, even when it was clear that it took painstaking effort just to get up the stairs to our studio.

She was a woman who lived her life with passion & purpose in every way.

This Christmas when I set my table with MayMarie's beautiful Irish linens and napkins, I will give thanks for her beautiful legacy, and I will step in the New Year with as much passion & purpose as I can muster.

And maybe a tiara and a bit of red lipstick too.


A much appreciated visit to celebrate my 20th Jazzercise Anniversary

My Big Bang Theory

2011-12-15T08:20:00.000-08:00

I've always said that if you don't slow down and take care, the universe will put something in your path to force you to. Guess that's what the woman in the Toyota Camry who rear ended me yesterday was up to.

To be honest, I think I've been handling this Christmas season with fairly little stress and had been having a very productive, albeit, busy week. Until the Camry.

I could be frustrated that I have to stay home from work, have a back and neck that is super sore (not ideal when you have a physical job), a muffler dragging along the pavement, insurance paperwork, claims adjusters, rental cars and the like to deal with today.

Could be much worse. So I actually find myself in a place of gratitude. If it's all in how you frame it (as I always say), then it's a happy accident.

I got to lie on the couch last night with no agenda. Plus my hubby brought home some chocolate and pretzel crisps, two essential elements when confined to the couch.

I get to sit in my home office and sort through my inbox this morning (a task that's been nagging me for awhile).

I'm going to see the fab Beth Leas at the TLC Center for some healing Reiki ater.

I am surrounded by amazing family, friends, staff and customers who have been sending me lots of love today.

All in all, it's a pretty good day.

"It's not so much how busy you are...

2011-12-11T08:24:00.001-08:00

Love this quilt given to us by a friend

"It's not so much how busy you aret why you are busy. The bee is praised'; the mosquito is swatted."

(quote by Marie O'Conner)

Ah, so true.

With the countdown to Christmas on, things seemed to be moving at a more rapid pace. As I sit here planning the week ahead and deciding how to spend what's left of the weekend I'm going to reflect on this quote and focus on the WHY in my time.

Yesterday was filled with work (which for me fortunately includes working out), volunteering, and then curling up with the family to enjoy a Christmas favorite, Elf. Other than watching my hubby put the lights on the tree (Meg and I were a rapt audience, but lent little assistance other than supervisory direction), not a lot of tasks were accomplished.

Rather than volunteering yesterday I could have tackled gift wrapping and there's a bit more shopping that could be done. Instead of watching a movie, I could have faced the laundry which is piling up. But I decided that until I am seeing eye to eye with it, I'm not going to stress too much.

But going back to the why, I'd like to think that the time was spent wisely.

Take a look at how you're spending your time this season and ask yourself just exactly what you're busy with.....better to be the bee!

Christmas traditions: old & new

2011-12-07T09:20:00.000-08:00

The holidays are a time where we bring out the traditions. Things we've done since we were little, traditions that were born as a result of a marriage or having children, and then new traditions that emerge, sometimes accidentally.

Last night was a wonderful evening which included a fairly new tradition. First I enjoyed a delish dinner at the Abbazia's (cooked by the big guy, Frankie himself). After dinner we went on to what is becoming an annual event, a drive to see the light show at the home of Paul Tudor Jones.

This is the third year Pina & I have ventured out, hot chocolate in hand, to soak in the holiday ambiance (and the second year her wonderful daughter Danielle has joined us). If you haven't seen it ,here's a glimpse at last year's display but I think this year's is even better.

There's always great conversation such as Danielle's creative ideas for inventions, fashion, and last night veered into the topic of our favorite (and least favorite) Christmas carols.

I shared that one of my favorites is "Do You Hear What I Hear?"

"Do You Hear What I Hear?" was written in October 1962 with lyrics by Noël Regney and music by Gloria Shayne Baker . The pair were married at the time, and wrote it as a plea for peace during the Cuban Missile Crisis.

One of my favorite old traditions was heading to the Elms Inn in Ridgefield every Christmas season to hear Noël sing his classic song. For years my musical theater pals and I frequented the Elms to sip a drink and to sing along side Noel as he tickled the ivories.

He always played our favorite show tunes and let us take the spotlight, but at Christmastime, when it came to the song made famous by Bing Crosby, it was his turn to shine. He was known more for his piano prowess than his vocal stylings, but somehow this one was all his.

I get chills thinking back on it now.

Christmas traditions old and new....it's all good!

It's beginning to look a lot like Christmas

2011-12-04T16:14:00.001-08:00

Go ahead, sing along.

Yes, it is looking like Christmas around here, and even smelling like Christmas too, as we picked up our tree today. We're giving it a chance to settle and will be decorating it later in the week. In our attempt to create as stress free a holiday as possible, we're keeping the decorating simple.

We are contemplating doing something different to decorate the tree this year rather than our usual ornaments, and when I say 'we' I mean me. I think it'd be fun to get a little creative, but Rich tends to prefer the status quo. At the moment I don't have any brilliant ideas (please pass any along !) so the jury's still out on that one.

However you do it, just be sure to enjoy the process.....

One for you....one for me....

2011-12-02T08:32:00.001-08:00

Ever get into that mode when you're doing your Holiday shopping? Spot a great gift for mom, and hey look over there - something just right for ME!

Is it me? Or is it hard not to fall into that trap?

But this is the season of GIVING, 'tis it not?

Mid-year I made a choice not to buy anything for myself for the second half of the year, with the exception of while traveling in Beijing (there's gotta be an exception to every rule right?).

For the most part, I've been consistent and successful, but sometimes a girl needs just a little sparkle for the Holidays.

In my shopping travels of late, I picked up these festive sparkly earrings (with the Kohl's sale + coupon they were less than $10). So don't beat yourself up about wanting to give a little to yourself as well. You were good this year, right? It doesn't have to be extravagant or big. An inexpensive bit of holiday cheer may be just what your festive outfit needs.

Cheers!

A little R&R

2011-11-30T09:27:00.001-08:00

Sometimes a little R&R is what what the body and soul need. I seriously can not believe it has been a mere eleven days since returning from a beautiful vacation in Aruba.

What makes the time fly so fast?

Here are just a few scenes from the week.

Great spot to sit and wait for my massage appointment

Beautiful views

On the Black Pearl for a snorkeling adventure

Catching the sunset

Enjoying the sand

Ready for dinner

Cosmos on the beach

Looks like a Board Meeting of the birds

There are always rainbow somewhere if you keep your eyes open

Keeping it local this Christmas

2011-11-21T14:14:00.000-08:00

Preview

Our Christmas Tree circa '09 maybe?

I received this email from a friend. I'm not sure who wrote it, and originally wasn't going to post it until I could find out it's origin, but it really strikes a chord. Let's carry our Patriotism into the holidays. Buy American and support your local merchants!

Feel free to share, and thanks Tony for sharing! Too bad you won't be getting that flat screen you had your eye on :).

Christmas 2011 -- Birth of a New Tradition

As the holidays approach, the giant Asian factories are kicking into high gear to provide Americans with monstrous piles of cheaply produced goods --merchandise that has been produced at the expense of American labor. This year will be different. This year Americans will give the gift of genuine concern for other Americans. There is no longer an excuse that, at gift giving time, nothing can be found that is produced by American hands.

Yes there is!

It's time to think outside the box, people. Who says a gift needs to fit in a shirt box, wrapped in produced wrapping paper?

Everyone -- yes EVERYONE gets their hair cut. How about gift certificate from your local American hair salon or barber? Gym membership? It's appropriate for all ages who are thinking about some health improvement.Who wouldn't appreciate getting their car detailed? Small, American owned detail shops and car washes would love to sell you a gift certificate or a book of gift certificates.

Are you one of those extravagant givers who think nothing of plonking down the Benjamines on a Chinese made flat-screen? Perhaps that grateful gift receiver would like his driveway sealed, or lawn mowed for the summer, or driveway plowed all winter, or games at the local golf course.

There are a bazillion owner-run restaurants -- all offering gift certificates. And, if your intended isn't the fancy eatery sort, what about a half dozen breakfasts at the local breakfast joint. Remember, folks this isn't about big National chains -- this is about supporting your home town Americans with their financial lives on the line to keep their doors open.

How many people couldn't use an oil change for their car, truck or motorcycle, done at a shop run by the American working guy?

Thinking about a heartfelt gift for mom? Mom would LOVE the services of a local cleaning lady for a day.
My computer could use a tune-up, and I KNOW I can find some young guy who is struggling to get his repair business up and running.

OK, you were looking for something more personal. Local crafts people spin their own wool and knit them into scarves. They make jewelry, and pottery and beautiful wooden boxes.

Plan your holiday outings at local, owner operated restaurants and leave your server a nice tip. And, how about going out to see a play or ballet at your hometown theatre. Musicians need love too, so find a venue showcasing local bands.

Honestly, people, do you REALLY need to buy another ten thousand lights for the house? When you buy a five dollar string of light, about fifty cents stays in the community. If you have those kinds of bucks to burn, leave the mailman, trash guy or babysitter a nice BIG tip.

You see, Christmas is no longer about draining American pockets. Christmas is now about caring about US, encouraging American small businesses to keep plugging away to follow their dreams. And, when we care about other Americans, we care about our communities, and the benefits come back to us in ways we couldn't imagine.

THIS is the new American Christmas tradition.

Forward this to everyone on your mailing list -- post it to discussion groups -- throw up a post on Craigslist in the Rants and Raves section in your city -- send it to the editor of your local paper and radio stations, and TV news departments. This is a revolution of caring about each other, and isn't that what Christmas is about?

The riskier the endeavor, the more exhilarating the reward

2011-11-11T10:39:00.001-08:00

At this week's "FabienneUnplugged" Client Attraction Bonus Day (me on the far right:))

I had the honor yesterday of spending the day with a group of inspiring entrepreneurs at the beautiful Stamford Yacht Club, compliments of Fabienne Fredrickson of Client Attraction.

Yes, there were many great marketing strategies discussed, but the even bigger message was one of playing a bigger game. She delivered a compelling message about harnessing your passion (or as she likes to say, "your brownies") and generously sharing it with the world. Now that's a brownie recipe I'd like to have!

Of course it takes courage and also FAITH to go BIG (I love a biz workshop where the word faith keeps appearing on the page as I feverishly took notes to capture the magic).

On this powerful day of 11-11-11 think about how you can play a bigger game in your own life, in whatever form that takes for you. If not as an entrepreneur, as a mother, as an employee, as YOU.

It might be uncomfortable at first, but the riskier the endeavor, the more exhilarating the reward.

As one participant shared, "When a rocket is about to break the sound barrier it shakes the most."

I say....bring it on!

"All I got was a rock"

2011-11-07T07:03:00.000-08:00

Ok, it wasn't really that bad. But the Charlie Brown Great Pumpkin episode did come to mind last night as I enthusiastically awaited the trick or treaters whose Halloween plans were thwarted in Norwalk by the unprecedented fall snow storm last weekend.

The porch lights illuminated the pumpkins, the Pandora Halloween station was cranking. Did you even know there was such a station? Although after we got through the obligatory Monster Mash and Thriller, the selections were a bit of a reach.

We were assembling homemade pizzas and I had my glass of wine in hand, while Rich was working on the last of the fall ale.

Then, crickets.

I double checked the porch lights.

I shuffled up the candy bowl to ensure that all three selections were easily visible.

Nothing.

I must be honest, Halloween isn't my favorite holiday. I think it goes back to the year my grandmother (many of you knew her as Dolly) made me dress as a tree for Halloween, despite my adamant protestations and desires for less brown and more pink, ideally something involving tulle.

Instead I had a bird's nest fastened to the top of my head.

Not nearly as cool as a little bling.

I was, however, ready to embrace it this year. Celebrate it.

In the end only three small groups of determined trick or treaters made the trek to our doorbell.

Sometimes you just have to go with the flow....so, I kicked back and ripped open a bite size Milky Way (or two) as the One-eyed Purple People Eater played on Pandora.

Don't waste the sexy

2011-11-04T09:07:00.000-07:00

Perks of working from home

This quote is on a t-shirt I got from a pole dancing class awhile back. Anytime I come across it crumpled up in the back of my drawer, I decide it's a good idea to put it on every once in awhile and revisit the concept.

It's so easy to go the UN-sexy route. As I write this I'm wearing flannel pj bottoms, gray thermal long underwear top and fuzzy socks. Fortunately I'm having a good hair day so that elevates the look, a little. Also fortunate for others that I'm working from home this morning in this lovely ensemble.

As women though we shouldn't be embarrassed to take time to EMBRACE the sexy. You don't have to make a big production of it. Simply put on a little red lipstick or maybe a sexy bra. It doesn't even matter if you're the only one who knows.

I recently took a Belly Dancing class which did wonders for helping my fellow participants and I appreciate our curves dabble in a bit of Tuesday night sensuality. Belly Dancing is a lovely way to reconnect to your body and boost your confidence and I loved watching the women in the class celebrate their sexiness and ignite their spirits.

Now to look for ways to bring that into our every day lives. Tonight I'll give it a try by donning high heels and taking a spin around the dance floor at a friend's wedding.

Your turn.....I challenge you to unleash the sexy beautiful goddess that you are!

Planning to slip into this later!

Don't waste the sexy ladies!

Spontaneity & Serendipity: Do the unexpected, get cool results

2011-10-28T08:15:00.000-07:00

Yesterday was a bustling day. I made my debut as a cover model followed by a fabulous fundraiser, both probably deserving of separate blog posts (forthcoming).

This morning I woke up exhausted but filled to the brim with goodness and surrounded by tons of love. Also a bit "hungover" - not so much from wine (although I had a bit of that), but from the adrenaline, dancing, energy and love that had been enveloping me yesterday.

A few posts back I mentioned that on my fall wish list was the desire to add more spontaneity into my life. So I decided to message a friend at 6:30 am this morning to see if she'd like to meet for breakfast. Not only did I have spontaneity on the brain, I was also craving an arepa from Valencia's and in need of their high test coffee.

Now mind you I've had what I'd term a professional acquaintance with this person for several years now, so it's not like this is a regular occurrence. I'm a big believer in surrounding yourself with people who bring more of the good stuff into your life. I have a lot of respect for this woman and her enthusiasm is infectious.

Nevertheless, it is a bit out of my character to contact someone who is not a super close friend (or my mother) before sunrise and suggest an outing. The typical conversation I'd have with myself is that she's probably too busy, has other plans, has lots of other friends to have breakfast with, and doesn't have the time.

I decided to stuff that conversation down where it belongs and just go for it.

Turns out it was a wonderfully spontaneous and serendipitous morning. The company and conversation was exactly what I'd craved and needed, even more than the coffee. I'd even like to think we're moving more towards the friendship phase these days.

And the arepa was delish too.

Do you see yourself in this video?

2011-10-19T14:57:00.000-07:00

Do you recognize yourself in this video?

Have you ever been in the middle of a conversation and there it is....the sound of the ring tone. Whether it's the standard Marimba or a catchy new Usher song, it doesn't matter, this interruption takes priority.

Now of course I'm not talking about those times when you have a sick child at home or you're waiting for the jury to return with a verdict to seal your fate. I'm talking about the every day conversations over coffee or lunch.

You may even answer and tell the caller "I'm busy, can I call you right back?" (something I can never understand).

Perhaps next time, see what happens when you stay in the present. Experiment with NOT answering (if it's something that can likely wait).

Maybe it's time to disconnect to connect....

Putting yourself first

2011-10-17T14:11:00.000-07:00

This concept seems to come up everyday, especially in my business. Women are experts at putting themselves last, and some even seem to wear that as a badge of honor. This post today by the Daily Om is right on target so I'm taking the liberty of re-posting and of course giving them credit. Plus that will give me a little bit of extra time to take a few deep breaths and enjoy a cup of tea....ah, it's the little things!

Putting yourself first means that it may be necessary to say no to someone else in order to say yes to yourself.

We have all heard the instructions of an airline attendant reminding us to put on our own oxygen mask before we help anyone else with theirs. This advice is often cited as a metaphor for self-care because it so accurately expresses why it is important. It seems to say, ironically, that if you can’t take care of yourself for yourself, do it for others. Few situations in our daily lives mimic the wake-up call of an airplane emergency, so it’s easy to keep putting self-care off—easy, that is, until we get sick, overwhelmed, or exhausted, and suddenly don’t have the energy to care for the people who count on us. That’s when we realize we haven’t been getting the oxygen we need to sustain ourselves. We begin to understand that taking care of ourselves is neither selfish nor indulgent; it’s just plain practical.

Putting yourself first means that it may be necessary to say no to someone else in order to say yes to yourself. For many of us, there is always something we feel we could be doing for someone else, and it helps to remember the oxygen metaphor. You can even encourage yourself by saying “I am caring for myself so that I am better able to care for others” or some other mantra that will encourage you. It also helps to remember that self-care doesn’t have to be composed of massively time-consuming acts. In fact, the best prescription for taking care of yourself is probably small, daily rituals; for example, taking one half-hour for yourself at the beginning and end of the day to meditate, journal, or just be. You might also transform the occasional daily shower or bath into a half-hour self-pampering session.

Whatever you decide, making some small gesture where you put yourself first every day will pay off in spades for you and the ones you love. The oxygen you need is all around you; sometimes you just need to be reminded to breathe.

October 17, 2011

http://www.dailyom.com/

En garde!

2011-10-13T06:02:00.000-07:00

Our latest adventure brought Pina and I to the Farifield Fencing Academy and this time her daughter, Danielle joined us for the fun. The event was sponsored by My Time for Me, one of my favorite organizations and our surfing excursion with MTFM was part of the original inspiration for the K & P adventures.


John gives me some helpful tips

Here are my do's & don'ts I picked up on the fencing strip:

Don't apologize for going for it - While there were a couple of more aggressive gals int he group, effortlessly racking up points on the electronic scoreboard, others were quick to serve up an apology with each thrust. My guess is that among a group of men in a similar setting, the phrase "I'm sorry, are you okay?" would be heard as often as "Does this outfit make my butt look big?" or "I think I'm having a hot flash under this mask."

As women we are often afraid to go full out, afraid we'll be called some choice four (or five) letter word! Go for it and don't apologize.

Don't be afraid to suck - Let's face it, I sucked at fencing. It didn't help that I am battling an elbow injury (let's not let my physical therapist get wind of the fencing outing). Consequently I was in a lot of pain early on, BUT I'm not using that as an excuse. I'm pretty sure I would have sucked no matter what. I'm still glad I went

Do learn some new vocabulary - I'm now mildly versed in such terms as the epee, parry, foil, and sabre. I can only imagine the type of cocktail party where I'll be able to weave in such banter, but it never hurts to expand your mind right?

Do serve wine & cheese afterwards - It makes everything, especially some adventurous girl time, a little better, doesn't it?


A job well done ladies!

Leaving a legacy - in your own way

2011-10-07T05:15:00.000-07:00

The world lost an icon this week. He was a creative genius, a visionary, an inspirational innovator and an entrepreneur extraordinaire, . Yesterday's CNN article compared him to the likes of Thomas Edison and Leonardo DaVinici.

When I reflect how much my own life has been impacted by his revolutionary contributions, I am astounded. From using the iPod to play our music at Jazzercise (believe it or not I started just when we were phasing out 45 records, we sure have come a long way baby!), to how I stay in touch with friends and family scattered across the country through the ease and convenience of my iPhone, to using my iPad daily allowing me to have a mobile office to make my life as an entrepreneur possible.

He said he wanted to "put a ding in the universe." Ding? More like a ginormous cavity.

He created a legacy.

But legacies aren't limited to revolutionizing the world with technology or creating a global phenomenon. Legacies are built by the small simple actions we take every day. They are designed by how we live our life in own communities.

So while we mourn the loss of Steve Jobs and celebrate his legacy, we should ask ourselves how we are creating our own.

The mother of my very dear friend Jura, Rosemary Strimavicius, received an award this week celebrating her own legacy. She has sewn thousands of pillows for woman in recovery from Breast Cancer surgery. She has lost most of her sight due to an aggressive eye disease, but she sews by memory and feel and a lot of love. According to Jura, "She stuffs more love than fluff into each pillow and finishes each one with a kiss every time!"

Granted Jobs certainly sold far more than 'thousands' of Apple products, but I bet the recipients of Rosemary's pillows felt some pretty special love that can't be conjured up by a phone or a laptop.

Rosemary is creating her own legacy, and SHE inspires me, just as Steve jobs will always be an inspiration to me.

What legacy are YOU creating?

Rosemary receiving the "Volunteer of the Year" award from Necessities Bag founder Maureen Lutz ~ she is receiving a Baccarat necklace from a beautiful representative from Baccarat

Now it's time to post this via BlogPress on my iPad and maybe give Jura a call later on the iPhone to say hello.:)

Look for the LOVE

2011-10-05T14:16:00.000-07:00

Rainbow last Thurs night - the most spectacular I've ever seen

We all have those days (ok, lately it seems like it's been weeks) where there is more bad, sad and frustrating news then we feel we can handle. Both in the news and in our own backyards.

It's especially hard when difficult things happen to people we care about, and even worse when it feels like there's not a thing we can do about it.

I've heard more than a few earfuls of tough stuff going on lately. At some point I figured enough was enough, I mean how much more can there be? Then I arrived home Sunday night after a very long day to some very upsetting family news. That was about the last straw. It would have been easy to go down the rabbit hole into despair and negativity. I'm not saying I didn't shed some tears, because I'll be honest, I did.

But then I got to thinking. I can dwell on this or I can LOOK FOR THE LOVE. Even when things are dark, there's some love, somewhere.

Here's where I've found love floating around lately.....

A daily continuous stream of instant messaging among my two BFF's - these women are my rocks!
A cool surprise from my hubby last week
Wonderful emails from two of my China kids in my inbox Monday morning
A bunch of beautiful inspiring women whom I get to work out with every day
A much needed Mastermind meeting on Friday with my support team - PLUS it was at the beach (and followed by a glass of wine and a friend always ready to lend an ear)
Fun unexpected treats from my Reiki partner
My mom - 'nuff said.
A spontaneous, and very special, family dinner
A sweet note from a long time colleague
Glorious weather today and the chance to eat lunch and do some work outside (love the virtual office)
A spectacular rainbow spotted in Milford during an impromptu outing to spend time with my stepdaughter (photo above - which does not do it justice!)

I'm not saying that this love takes my mind off the tragedies people I love are enduring and the courageous battles being fought. I just know that amidst it all I need to keep an eye out for the love.

Where do you see the LOVE this week?

Trust me it's there (oddly I now feel like breaking out into the Mary Tyler Moore theme song...."Love is all around...")

Fall wish list.....

2011-09-28T14:13:00.000-07:00

Photo taken on an excursion last fall

Autumn is upon us and it's my favorite time of year. Have you been scratching your head lately wondering where summer went?

In looking over my summer 'wish list' I'm happy to say that I did in fact enjoy everything on my list, except golfing with my hubby. Unfortunately an injury early in the summer has kept me off the golf course and in physical therapy. But other than that, I made the absolute most of my summer and enjoyed it to the fullest, including my kick off summer hot fudge sundae (which wasn't on the list, but a revered summer tradition)

When fall arrived on Friday, I started crafting my autumn wish list; There are lots more fun events and projects on tap, but here are a things that I want to do this fall, and a few things that help me enjoy, appreciate and savor the season.

Make homemade soup - every week if often as possible
Try fencing
Recycle old cassettes
Teach a four week Pure Muscle class (will be packing my bikini for Aruba in Nov so this is a must!)
Go to an orchard for apples, cider and a pumpkin
Make something with the apples, maybe a pie or applesauce
Stock up on red wine (get ideas from wine class I'm taking in Oct with hubby)
Take some photos of fall foliage
Get a massage
Watch at least two documentaries I've been meaning to watch from my Netflix list
Sand and stain bench for living room
Take Belly Dancing
Do something spontaneous every week (believe it or not this might be the most challenging as I tend to PLAN my spontaneity.!)

What's on your Fall Wish List?

Give Your Body A (Healthy) Cleansing

2011-09-26T08:09:00.000-07:00

My most recent article was published on DailyNorwalk.com as well as ten affiliate sites.

Did you have too many barbecues and ice cream cones this summer? You're not alone in having indulged in summer delights.

But as fall approaches, it's the perfect time for a simple cleanse to clean out all the "gunk" accumulated in the body from food, cleaning products, water and air. Just as cars need an oil change to operate efficiently, so does the body.

We are constantly accumulating toxins, often resulting in symptoms such as headaches, poor concentration, fatigue, joint pain, muscle aches and pain, skin problems and more. In order to improve these conditions and increase your energy forget the expensive fancy colon cleanse that will keep you in the bathroom for a week and try eliminating this items for no more than seven days.

Caffeine: This includes caffeinated beverages such as coffee, soda and black tea. Sip herbal and green teas with no caffeine.

Refined and added simple sugars: Refined sugars refer to anything with added sucrose, fructose, high fructose corn syrup, dextrose, molasses, honey, maple syrup or alcohol. This includes cakes, cookies, candies, pastry, beer, wine and liquor. Use a natural sweetener such as Stevia.

Gluten containing grains (wheat, rye, barley, spelt, kamut): Only quinoa, oats, rice, millet, buckwheat, teff and amaranth are acceptable grains. For a more hardcore detox, consider eliminating all grains, then if desired work back in those containing the non-gluten grains listed above

Eggs and dairy products: These include egg, milk, yogurt, cheese ice cream, sour cream, butter, etc, as well as any soy based dairy substitutes. Experiment with items such as almond and rice milks, which are tasty alternatives.

No processed foods: A no brainer.

No meat (at least try eating no red meat): For additional protein during a particularly physical day, try grilled fish or chicken (preferably organic) or turkey (not processed).

What should you much on? Plenty of fruits and veggies. Try fresh, raw, steamed, sautéed, juiced or roasted (but not creamed vegetables). Play with a wide variety of spices, oils and vinegars, but steer clear of ketchup, mustard, relish, soy sauce and other packaged condiments.

The first few days can be challenging, but stick with it and you'll be amazed at how your body will restore itself to radiant health.

Kristen Hallett Rzasa is the owner of InterPlay Health, LLC and Jazzercise. She is an entrepreneur, dancer, instructor, writer, yogi, golfer and avid reader.

The Brits are on to something - taking time for tea at The Plaza

2011-09-23T05:17:00.000-07:00

From the pages of The Great Gatsby to the big screen of The Way We Were (and most recently Bride Wars), The Plaza Hotel has been the backdrop for many scenes of drama, romance and fantasy, including the famous adventures of naughty Eloise in the magical children's story from the 1950's.

Yesterday in our quest for monthly adventure, Pina and I ventured into Manhattan for tea at The Plaza's Palm Court.

Surrounded by timeless elegance, we sipped pear tea, people watched and dished about men, money, and menopause, or in other words, the things that keep us up at night.

A few musings brewed over tea time:

Look in your own backyard - Neither Pina nor I had ever set foot in this gilded luxury hotel despite countless days spent in NYC and residing less than an hour away. It's amazing how much there is to explore right under your nose. In fact, over tea we discovered that there are many other quintessential NY experiences neither of us have yet to try.

Take time to savor - I'm the fastest eater I know, and frankly I've never tried very hard to break that bad habit. But tea time demands a slower pace. If you've taken to inhaling meals on the run and make a regular habit of dashboard dining, it's time to brew a pot of tea and slow down.

Finish your dessert without guilt - The pet it fours were too refined, too gorgeous, and frankly too pricey to leave any on the plate. We devoured them whole heartily and enjoyed every bite. I briefly considered nabbing the two left behind on the lovely tiered dessert stand at the adjacent table, but thought better of it.

Yummo!

Seek out some ambiance - Tea at The Plaza of course is never about the tea, or even the food. It's about donning your Mary Janes (preferably a more modern version with a heel) and soaking up the palm trees, piano music, and sneaking a peek at what the ladies at the next table are wearing.

Sheer elegance

One lump or two?

"Your girl is lovely, Hubbell"

Me & Eloise

What happened to the question about world peace?

2011-09-15T07:00:00.000-07:00

This morning I was sipping my coffee, thumbing through news articles from the last week of Financial Times and perusing my news feeds on my iPad.

I almost stood up and applauded when I read this article on CNN about what transpired at the Miss Universe pageant earlier this week.

Here's an excerpt.

This question was posed to Leila Lopes of Angola, now our universe's newly crowned Miss Universe.

"If you could change one of your physical characteristics," the designated judge asked her, "which one would it be and why?"

Are you (insert profanity) kidding me?

After standing under the magnifying glass of millions, this 25-year-old, 5-foot-10 ½-inch knockout had to publicly contemplate if she was physically good enough.

Her response was quick: "Thank God I am very-well satisfied with the way God created me, and I wouldn't change a thing. I consider myself a woman endowed with inner beauty. ... I have acquired many wonderful principles from my family, and I plan to follow these through the rest of my life. And now I would like to give all of you a piece of advice: Respect one another."

Now that's TRUE BEAUTY! Leila, you definitely deserve a tiara for that answer!

Read the full story here.

When does busyness end and balance begin?

2011-09-14T13:30:00.000-07:00

There has been a lot of tough stuff happening the past few weeks. My Facebook inbox is filled with a few dozen messages about difficult times rather than the usual routine chit chat from friends and clients.

Sending prayer requests to my Cursillo community has become a daily occurrence.

Sunday we reflected and remembered and recalled how our priorities shifted along with the NYC skyline. But how has that translated into our week just three days later?

I often refer back to these questions from author and coach, Cheryl Richardson, just to keep myself in check:

If this were my last hour on earth, would I be happy with how I've spent my time today, this week, or this year?

Would I feel good about the priorities I'm focused on right now at this point in my life?

Do I feel complete and at peace with the people who matter most?

I think I can answer a strong yes to each of those questions, but I need to continue to ask them. It's so easy to get drawn off course.

Today's been jam packed and I look back at the day so far....teach a class, cover the desk for the remaining classes, participate on a conference call, finish a marketing project, write a blog post, a physical therapy appointment, a hair appointment (like I said priorities!), prepare for a charity walk where I've volunteered to do the warm up, and get ready for a meeting and presentation in Rhode Island. Am I happy with how I've spent my time?

Actually yes. It always feels good to be productive. But when does busyness end and balance begin?

There's a small business meeting I could/should/had planned to attend later this evening, but if I'm really listening to what I need, I think I'll be ready to hang out with my hubby and chat and then curl up and watch my latest Netflix (High Society - can't believe I've never seen it!). Ah, I feel more relaxed already.

What do YOU need right now?

Remembering

2011-09-10T03:36:00.000-07:00

In honor of the 10th Anniversary of 9/11, I am re-running a blog post from last year. What happened on my plane that day remains one of the most terrifying moments of my life. Everybody has a story to tell.

Everyone will at some point tomorrow remember where they were, what they were doing, who they called first, who they hugged first. We will remember and reflect and pray in our own different ways.

At the the time I was fortunate to be part of an international team at DaimlerChrysler Financial. Belonging to an international team added a perspective to this event and provided a sense of support beyond the boundaries of my own country.

I was also fortunate that my company did everything possible to bring me home safely that week. A long trip from Prague, to Germany to Paris, became even longer when I heard the news while in flight heading to New York.

There was a uniqueness being on an international flight and sharing this experience with so many non-Americans. We were also initially removed from the horrific pictures and news accounts, as we remained on the plane until 9/12 and ultimately in the care of the Canadian Red Cross and Navy for several days following.

While reflecting, I pulled out a folder of emails I received the days following from my colleagues from around the world.

This line came from my boss Stephen Jepsen of Berlin...

"So far as I see, nobody was able to go back to work today without the feeling that something fundamental had changed in our western world in seconds yesterday. ..and that these buildings, symbols for freedom and pride, don't exist anymore."

9/11/01 From the plane window in St. John's Newfoundland

Sept. 11, 2001

Yes, something fundamental did change that day. I hope that what we hold on to is the reminder of what's really important in life. I believe that we can keep the kindness and courage that was shown during that time alive in our words and actions every day.

The moment that will forever be burned in my memory is finally reaching US soil and seeing the American flag, the true symbol of our freedom and pride, flying brightly.

Stir up your workout

2011-09-06T11:10:00.000-07:00

Zip lining & tree climbing; Fall 2010

You are determined to hit the treadmill every day this week. But two weeks later, things have petered off and somehow Dancing with the Stars, that glass of Merlot and your couch pull you in like a magnet.

Are you completely void of will power? I doubt it. Most people find themselves quickly tiring of the same old (and repetitive) routines.

Here are a few ideas to breathe more life into your exercise routine to stay on track.

Do one different workout each week: As a Jazzercise instructor I teach classes most days of the week, so once a week I do something completely different. Sometimes it's a yoga class, a bike ride or rollerblading. I can always ensure that there will be one non-Jazzercise workout in my week.

Try a new sport or activity each month: I strive to try something new every month. I've tried belly dancing, Tai Chi, kayaking, Qigong, surfing, zip lining, horseback riding and boxing, and next month I'm trying a fencing class. Investigate sources such as www.meetup.com, or your local Continuing Education program for low cost options.

Mix up your music: Sometimes just downloading a new playlist of fresh music can energize a workout that's lost its zip Surf iTunes to get ideas for motivating playlists.

Plan an exercise outing or challenge: For the past three years I've ridden in the Five Boro Bike Tour. It's a 42-mile ride, which is a real challenge considering I don't bike very often. It's also now a tradition with friends, a physical challenge and an event I look forward to every year. Have you always wanted to run a 5K or tackle a triathlon? Make a plan to go for it.

Use technology to spice it up: Surf podcasts, apps and websites for material to mix up your workouts. There is a lot of free material available to add variety to your workouts. Check out Netflix for a variety of workout DVDs to sample and you'll have new material delivered right to your mailbox.

Try an active vacation: A hiking trip, white water rafting or a biking trip can be a great way to get out of a rut. This summer I went hiking in the Huangshaun mountains and climbed the Great Wall in China. The majestic scenery and breathtaking views made me forget it was a workout.

Get inspired and get moving.

Kristen Hallett Rzasa is the owner of InterPlay Health, LLC and Jazzercise. She is an entrepreneur, dancer, instructor, writer, yogi, golfer and avid reader.

PUBLISHED BY THE DAILY WESTPORT

It shouldn't take a hurricane

2011-08-31T11:15:00.000-07:00

Our Irene Feast

In the Northeast we are slowing returning to normal following Irene's visit. Although unlike even an unexpected house guests, she's left more than an extra load of laundry upon her departure.

The National Guard has arrived on the scene in my mom's town to assist with clean up and it won't be long until we are all back online and refilling our refrigerators.

If there is anything to like about Irene, it is that it brings us back to basics.

Food. Shelter. Water. (Maslow sure had it right on this one!)

Family. Togetherness.

We were forced to abandon the Blackberry, DVR, laptops and the entire line of Apple products. We read, talked, napped and spent a little more time just BEING rather than DOING. When was the last time your whole family unplugged? Our days were simple and it enriched my feeling of gratitude of all that we so easily take for granted.

I hope we don't need a nasty weather forecast in our future to take that time again to just be with one another and TALK.

Besides cleaning out the frig has been on my list of things to do anyway!

The Lure of the List

2011-08-17T11:12:00.001-07:00

I am list obsessed. I can't remember a time when I haven't had a list within arms reach. I suppose I could track it back to 1996 when I received my first Franklin Covey planner from the consulting firm I worked for at the time, but that just gave me an excuse to expand the lists and a nice faux leather case to swaddle them in.

The topics for my lists come in all shapes and sizes, from the mundane (Daily to do, Items I always buy at Costco) to the bucket list variety (Places I'd like to visit, Adventures I'd like to have).

They span both past (Books I've read {since '93}, Countries I've visited) and future (Books I'd like to read, Movie to see).

Then there's my favorite - 100 Things To Be, Do, or Have, which always offers up a bit of inspiration on a rainy day. And five years later I still have my 40 Things to do in my 40th Year, just because.

I have even been known to add something to the list AFTER it's complete JUST so I can cross it off. I suppose there's a 12 Step Program for this or perhaps TLC will be doing a reality series on The Lure of the List which will air right after Extreme Couponing.

Some are designed to keep me organized like my Project lists (categorized by short & long term and business & personal, of course). Others are simply designed to aid my pre-menopausal memory (Gifts to buy & Wines I'd like to try).

They are a means to catalog and create, and sometimes they are a simply a reminder of my options, of what's possible.

And anything that evokes hope and possibility is not a habit I plan to break anytime soon.

Now I'm off to cross 'write blog post' off my list.

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Another K & P advenuture... in beading

2011-08-12T04:30:00.000-07:00

Last night we embarked on another K & P adventure. This time it was beading. I know, it's much more docile than previous adventures like surfing, zip lining, and horseback riding. There were no anxiety attacks beforehand, no sweaty palms, and we certainly aren't sore this morning.

However, we are two self-proclaimed, non-crafty gals, so it was indeed an adventure of sorts.

When I was growing up my closest childhood friend, Beth, and I would lament to one another "what should we play today?" Beth (who by the way is still a close and crafty friend and I hope she's reading this) would exclaim, "Let's make things!"

I would groan. Making things was just not my forte.

Beth's Barbies would be adorned in beautiful homemade gowns with rouching and trim and my Barbie would be sporting a wrap dress made out of Kleenex. You get the picture.

So, when Pina and I embarked on our beading adventure we didn't know what results to expect.

Turns out it was fun. We could both get hooked on this craft. Our instructor, Erin, taught us about crimping and closures and the like and we both came home with darling little braclets.

Here's what I realized:

You don't have to be skilled at something to give it a try. Think you can't sing? Roll down the windows and belt out a tune. Think you have two left feet? Get out on the dance floor and shake your booty.
It doesn't matter if it's good, it matters that it's yours. My bracelet won't be winning any awards, but when I look down at it, I know it's my handiwork.
Girl time does a soul good. After a rough week, I found beading to be relaxing. The spinach and artichoke dip and wine which we enjoyed at an outdoor table in hip SoNo also helped, as did all of our chat in the "Girl Zone."
And finally, when beading, bring your reading glasses if you wear them. Those suckers can be small!

What adventure will you embark on today?

Stay tuned for more K & P adventures and we'd love to hear YOUR suggestions for our upcoming adventures.

Finished products: Pina (left), Kristen (right)

Relaxin' with Reiki

2011-08-09T07:01:00.000-07:00

I had a great Reiki session last night with a special client and felt the need to spread some yummy Reiki energy! I first became interested in Reiki when I was preparing for surgery in 2008 and in my typical overachiever fashion, I began researching the quickest way to healing and recovery so that I could be back in action as soon as possible.

It worked.

I've been hooked ever since and have loved to see how clients benefit.

One of the greatest Reiki healing health benefits is stress reduction and relaxation. This triggers the natural healing abilities of our bodies and improves and maintains health by gently balancing life energy.

There's a lot of stress in the air right now. Stress reduction isn't just a buzz word. It's a choice.

Do something to relieve your stress TODAY. And if you're so moved, schedule a session and experience the healing and relaxing benefits of Reiki. Find a practitioner near you OR if you're in lower Fairfield County, contact me and I'll come to YOU! Now that's stress free!

Flexibility for Health

2011-08-03T07:17:00.000-07:00

I LOVE my yoga! Not only have I brought yoga into my business (two great classes a week with Kathleen & Mark) , I regularly practice at home as well as at another local studio.

Have you ever noticed that when you are flexible with your plans, life feels easier? Our bodies are like that, too. When we have physical flexibility, we move fluidly and easily in everything we do.

Stretching after strength training or aerobic exercise helps loosen muscles that may have tightened, balancing your body. Stretching on its own is great any time for improving your range of motion and increasing circulation, allowing more blood flow to all body parts including your brain. With regular stretching, you can even improve your posture and relax your mind.

You can begin a stretching program at any age.

Be sure to talk with your doctor before beginning an exercise regimen, especially if you are new to physical activity or are resuming after a long break.

Stretching Tips:

Stretch easily and gently, only until you feel slight tension
Don’t bounce
Stop before you feel pain
Breathe deeply, exhaling as you relax into each stretch

Good times to stretch:

First thing in the morning
After sitting or standing for long periods
When you feel stiff or anxious
While watching television or sitting at your desk
Before falling asleep

Stretching Programs

Yoga – Dating back thousands of years, yoga continues to be a popular stretching program, and ranges from very gentle and slow forms to more rigorous power yoga that incorporates balance and strength with flexibility.

Tai Chi or Qigong – Also dating back thousands of years, tai chi and qigong are series of slow, gentle motions that circulate the body’s energy while loosening joints. Most movements can be done sitting or standing.

Pilates – Created in the early 1900s, Pilates is a system of exercises that increase flexibility, strength and coordination through mind-body control. While often done with machines, simpler version of Pilates can be done using only a floor mat.

Gymnastics or Swimming – More vigorous activities including gymnastics and swimming allow muscles to stretch and elongate while boosting your heart rate.

However you choose to stretch, try to do it three times per week – your body and mind will love you for it!

Time to stretch it out!

Tips adapted from Jazzercise.com

What dance can do....

2011-07-28T08:40:00.000-07:00

This weekend we'll be celebrating National Dance Day and I'll be hosting a local event in Stamford.

I'm still scurrying to master the choreography, as it comes on the heels of my return from China. I've been to get on stick to blog about my experiences there, but am still processing, catching up and trying to wake up!

Then it occurred to me that there is a strong tie between some of the work I did on the trip and this weekend's National Dance Day Event.
I was fortunate enough to participate in the Yale Alumni Service Corp trip this month where I taught in Xiuning County, which is in the Anhui province. Xiuning (pronounced "Shu-ning") comprises 9 towns and has a population of 274,000. It's located about 5 hours by bus west of Shanghai.

Over 200 hundred volunteers (including about 50 kids under 18) taught everything from tin whistles to film making to American Folk tales. I taught English, Introduction to Theater and Collage Art in the High School and spent afternoons in the Middle School teaching Dance.

In teaching the afternoon dance classes I was reminded that dance really is a universal language. Communicating through movement is a beautiful concept and helps to instill confidence.

Xiuning students strike a pose & learn to dance.

Dance is accessible to ALL levels. Most (maybe all) of the kids I worked with had never had any type of dance class and it took some time for them to understand that there were no wrong moves. Even some of their teachers were intrigued and slipped into the back row to learn the steps. It was all about moving and having FUN!. That that's the message we want to spread at Saturday's event. Move & enjoy it. Simple.

I recently received this email from one of my student translators who assisted in my dance classes.

How are you recently ? Although you left Xiuning just a few days , I miss you so much . I miss your smile , your dance . I always listen to the song at home . And when I heard this song , I can not help but to move up . I may not remember all the movements and the sequence of actions, but I still remember some of them . You taught me how to dance . I had never danced like that . Thanks to you , you make me more confident .

Cherry Lee

What better gift to share with someone than the gift of confidence. It was truly an honor to watch the joy experienced by these children when they danced.

All you have to do is Move Your Body .

Hope to see you Saturday!

Ni hao from Xiuning

2011-07-10T15:58:00.001-07:00

Ni hao from Xiuning!

It's steamy hot but full of crazy good energy here in Xiuning thus morning.

Today is our first day in front of the classroom and we're ready to rock!

We visited our classrooms yesterday. And while dirty, sparse & brutally hot, the site of the kids hanging over the balcony excitedly waving to us was awesome.

At lunch we hosted the government officials, as they are involved in EVERYTHNG. We were encouraged to go up & toast them individually as customary, rather having the typical group toast we do in America. Let's just say that's a lot of toasts!

Stay tuned as the adventure unfolds...

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Freedom & a serving of cole slaw - it must be the 4th!

2011-07-03T15:17:00.000-07:00

Photo from here

This weekend I'm finishing up packing for China in between enjoying the usual holiday and family 4th of July festivities.

As I pack, I can't help but wonder how my perspective on freedom, the essence of this holiday, will be impacted during this trip. Exploring and seeking to understand, or at least getting a glimpse into, another culture, especially one with such vastly different politics, is one of the wonders of traveling.

When I think of my own independence, I initially think of things I've done that I'm proud of, things like:

Buying my first home on my own
Traveling solo to places like the Baltic Sea or camping & rafting down the Colorado river
Leasing my first commercial space and diving full time into the entrepreneurial life

Then I think about women who live quite different lives in other lands who do not have such opportunities. I remember experiences such as visiting the Museum Haus am Checkpoint Charlie, a museum dedicated to the Berlin Wall. Story after story of those trying to escape over the wall amazed me as I thought of the many freedoms I enjoy.

So while I celebrate my nephew's birthday, spend time with my family, and of course attend the traditional Rzasa 4th of July with the summer blend of cole slaw, I remember how the independence I enjoy has shaped my life.

Whatever independence means to you, this weekend, be grateful for your freedom.

Giddy up!

2011-06-29T13:43:00.000-07:00

Me & Destiny

Last Friday Pina and I headed out for another K&P adventure. This time we hit the trails in Monroe at Blue Spruce Farm. There was a chance of rain, but despite the gray skies we enjoyed a beautiful trail ride through the woods with our guide John.

Here's what I was reminded of while on the trail:

Get outside! Everything feels better when you spend time in nature.
Spend time with a friend, but try doing something active for a change
Go with the flow! Pina's horse, Lady, was NOT in the mood to trot. Honor YOUR moods and go with them.
When your life speeds up (my horse Destiny DID want to trot) HOLD ON TIGHT and hope for the best!

Now go for it!

Summer wish list....

2011-06-21T13:57:00.000-07:00

Summer is here folks! How will you make the most of it? NOW is the time to consciously design your summer. Otherwise, you will be asking yourself over Labor Day weekend 'where did the summer go?'

I know it will go especially fast for me this year as I'll be spending a good chunk of July traveling to China on a cultural exchange/service trip. And while that's VERY exciting for me, there are plenty of other things I want to be sure to include in my summer.

Here's a few items on my summer wish list....

Hit the Farmer's Market every week
Rollerblade at the beach
Get a pedicure with a bright happy color
Visit the library for mindless summer reading, especially some good mysteries & chick lit
See the last Harry Potter movie
Play golf with my hubby as often as possible
Enjoy Happy Hour on patio with my hubby on the weekends with a glass of cold Pinot Grigio or a margarita - our best chats happen here!
Plan an outing with the Jazzer-girls to see The Help
Eat lunch outside on every day that weather permits
Host a summer cookout with THE gang
Get to NJ to visit my adorable nephews
Celebrate the 4th of July with the Rzasa clan
Have a summer adventure (or two) with Pina

What's on yours?

Fitness doesn't respect future workouts

2011-06-16T07:04:00.000-07:00

This morning I happened up a blog post by Peter Shankman which was honest and real and hopefully will make you think. For those of you who know or follow Peter (met him a few years ago at a networking event) he's the PR and social media guru. In his blog Peter shares the truth about his own journey and his struggle with complacency.

It's so easy to fall out of the habits that make us feel good and keep us healthy. And as he says, we're often not even quite sure how it happens. What matters most is making the choice to get back on track, as he's doing.

Here's a peak, but I encourage you to read the full post and be inspired!

"Fitness doesn't respect future workouts. Fitness only knows the here and now. If you eat a whole pizza now, that workout in three weeks won't mean shit to it. In the world of being healthy and in shape, there are millions of "I'll do this tomorrow" excuses lying by the side of the road, while the few healthy and in-shape people running past them shake their heads in pity.

You can't justify yourself to a better shape. You need to act on it, and you can't "schedule time" to act on it. It needs to happen all the time."

Amen to that Peter! And all the best on your journey.

Fresh from the Farmer's Market

2011-06-11T08:34:00.000-07:00

Friday night's dinner

It's that time of year again - Farmer's Markets are opening up all over the area. I love getting as much of our groceries as I can from local farmers and merchants. The best organic food is what is grown closest to you. The food doesn't have to travel as far, can be picked at its ripest and therefore needs fewer chemicals.

I have been on a mission for a while now to buy as little processed food as possible and the summer Farmer's Markets make it easier.

Last night we had fresh bread, fresh mozzerella, pesto and hot house tomatoes all made locally.

Our whole dinner was from the area (except for the wine :)). It was a quick easy dinner and healthier and tastier than ordering a pizza. Plus since it is all local, this meal had much less impact on the environment, and lessening my carbon footprint has been an ongoing project in our house.

I encourage you to check out one of the local markets this week! You can find one nearby almost any day of the week. Happy shopping!

From Complaining to Campaigning

2011-06-09T08:01:00.000-07:00

I loved this article so much that I had to re-post. You'll hear no complaints for me today!

From Complaining to Campaigning
by William Frank Diedrich

If complaining were an Olympic sport, there are, no doubt, people in your life who would be gold medalists. Complaining ranks up there with baseball as a national pastime. It may be that it is human to complain, but the downside of complaining is substantial. The cure for any complaint is to clarify what you want and then to begin taking action to claim it.

To complain is to express dissatisfaction with a person, situation, or event. When we complain we express the frustration or pain we are experiencing. At first this is necessary. We vent to release negative emotion. Once the negative emotion is vented we can focus on a course of action. Telling one or two people how you feel is often healthy. Telling lots of people your negative feelings does not help you to release the negative. As you tell more people your problems and as you experience the negative emotion that goes with those problems, you are practicing feeling badly. Practicing complaining makes you good at it. Practice, in this sense, hard wires the negative emotion in your body. Repetitive complaining makes you feel helpless and powerless. Repetitive complaining is a focus on what you don't want.

As you continue to complain you make it difficult to solve anything, because you convince yourself that nothing can be done. Also, no one really wants to listen to it. Think about this: Who would you rather be around---a person who complains a lot, or a person who takes effective action to solve their problems? Which person inspires you? I have read numerous stories about people who have overcome the odds and accomplished their goals. I have not read any stories about people who complain day in and day out and don't change their thinking or their behavior.

There are two steps to transcending the complaining mode and moving forward: Step one. Clarify what you want. Whatever is dissatisfying to you, determine what you want instead. If you are complaining about things you can't control, still determine what you want. You can complain about how people treat each other in the world, but how do you want to live your life?

Step two. Campaign. A campaign is an organized course of action to achieve a particular goal. It is determining what you want and taking action to achieve it. This requires focus, discipline, and courage. It requires that you build up your passion, your energy, and use it to motivate you.

You may think that it just takes too much energy to clarify and to campaign. Nothing drains your energy more than complaining. Chronic complaining by you or by others around you will tire you faster than taking action will.

Ask yourself this question: What am I complaining about and not really doing anything about? Is it another person? If so, are you willing to clarify what you want from that relationship and then change your thinking and behavior to make something good happen? If things are not satisfactory at work, are you willing to step up and create a vision for how it could be?

We each have the gift of life. If you are awake for at least 16 hours a day, then you and everyone else have been gifted with 57,600 seconds today. How are you using those seconds? Are those seconds filled with complaints, blaming, and expressions of frustration? Or, are those seconds filled with the satisfaction of you living on purpose. Each second provides opportunity for choice. When you catch yourself complaining, make sure you are talking to someone who cares and that you are doing it to let it go. Clarify what you want. Launch your campaign toward whatever lofty goal you have set. Your action and your example will inspire both you and the people who know you.

William Frank Diedrich is an executive coach, public speaker, and the author of three books, including Beyond Blaming. For speaking on topics such as leadership, moving beyond blaming, emotional intelligence, increasing influence, and being a true adult, contact Bill at Bill@noblaming.com . For information on Bill's books go to http://intelligentspirit.com/. Click on "Catalog".

To comment on this article, reply to Bill@noblaming.com

Safe Fun in the Sun

2011-06-06T11:04:00.000-07:00

It’s summertime and it feels great to be outdoors, soaking up the warmth of the sun that provides us with a healthy dose of Vitamin D. But it’s important to take precautions when outside for extended periods of time.

Remember that the sun’s UV rays are harmful if we are exposed to them too long. Here are some tips for being safe in the sun from www.jazzercise.com:

Drive Time
If possible, drive before or after peak sun hours of 10 a.m. to 4 p.m. because the sun’s UV rays can be magnified coming through car windshields, bathing your face, arms, hands and chest more than you may realize.

Seek Shade – When you are outdoors, seek a location where you can sit or stand in the shade once you’ve had enough sun. Remember that water, sand (and snow in the winter) reflect and intensify the sun’s rays, increasing your chance of sunburn.

Wear Dark Colors – Summer-weight light-colored cover-ups are fashionable, but they allow more of the sun’s rays onto our skin than we might know, protecting us only minimally, according to the American Cancer Society. The ACS recommends wearing dark colors, fabrics with tight weaves and specially treated garments and bathing suits for more healthy sun exposure.

Skip Tanning Salons – Tanning beds and sun lamps give out harmful UV rays that can contribute to skin cancer, according to the American Cancer Society. Also, getting a “base tan” is equivalent to only a sun protective factor of about 4, much less than most sunscreens.

Baby the Babies – To protect babies younger than six months, the American Cancer Society recommends shade, sun-protective clothing and hats. As a last resort, pediatricians now say that very small amounts of sunscreen can be used on small areas, such as baby’s face and back of the hands.

Go Incognito – Wear and wide-brimmed hat and UV-protected sunglasses when outdoors

Always Use Sunscreen – Remember that the SPF number describes how long a product will protect your skin, but only if you reapply every two hours, after going in water or toweling off. For example, if a person would begin to sunburn in 15 minutes, sunscreen with 20 SPF will prevent sunburn for five hours (15 minutes x 20 = 300 minutes).

Follow these recommendations and you’ll enjoy carefree fun in the sun all summer long.

Making progress and making bread.....

2011-05-24T14:04:00.000-07:00

Last week I was overwhelmed with a capital 'O'. I won't go into the gory details but they involved a bunch of other unappealing 'o' words like...overextended, overtired, over scheduled.

I met with my Mastermind pals on Friday and as usual, they set me straight. "DON'T take on another thing!" they told me. Another friend echoed the same message, "MAKE some time for yourself and don't forget to USE your friends as a safety net when you need to. Look at your priorities, and MAKE time for what's important!"

The next day I was asked to volunteer for something. It was something I'm sure I'd really enjoy doing and most definitely a worthwhile activity. I could hear the voice of my Mastermind gals in my mind and I graciously declined. Progress!

Also throughout the week, each day seemed to bring some upsetting or sad news from friends and family. I was buzzing buying sympathy cards, get well cards, and assisting people with a variety of tasks that seemed to need immediate attention. Then I learned my next door neighbor passed away. I don't know the couple well, but still, I thought I had better do something, or as a good Italian would say, I'd better cook something! After a quick look in my pantry and I figured I'd throw some ingredients in the bread maker and whip up a loaf at 6 am before flying out the door.

After seeing the loaf of bread on the counter for almost a day, I decided this afternoon it was time to make a visit next door. Could I just leave it on the doorstep? I mean there are a lot of items to be crossed off my list and after all I didn't really know Sydney well and maybe his wife doesn't really want company.

Instead I rang the bell and ended up spending an hour with Rhoda, most definitely the longest conversation we've ever had. She told me about her 68 year marriage, her grand kids, places she's lived and of course some juicy neighborhood gossip. We talked about how and the sense of community in neighborhoods has been lost over the years and how much people really crave it.

The words of my friend echoed in my head, look at your priorities and make time for what's important.

Turns out making bread is making progress. The items on the list will be there tomorrow. They can wait. Doing the right thing, the thing that's most real and compassionate, that can't wait.

Do something you love to do....

2011-05-13T11:50:00.000-07:00

A few of the books on my pile - to read or already read!

TGIF, right? So why not do something you love to do today? I just came back from a trip to the library. Love the library! Did some browsing and checked out three fun reads. I've got a good mystery for the car ride to and from Jersey on Sunday.

Kick off your weekend with something you love to do!

There's an app for that.....

2011-05-10T06:48:00.000-07:00

I must admit I'm somewhat obsessed with my iPhone. My husband, the Apple fanatic, will be happy to hear me admit it publicly.

I'll confess to surfing the app store and finding interesting (mostly free) apps to play around with. My current favorite is called Gratitude Rock. Now I'm an off and on with my journaling and I have gone through many phases writing down things I'm grateful for, but not always sticking to it. I think I first read about this practice years ago in the cult favorite, Sarah Ban Breathnach's Simple Abundance. Around the same time Oprah jumped into the action and still recommends recording five things a day.

Well, since I've downloaded Gratitude Rock, I've been on a roll typing in five things every day for the past six weeks or so. I mean I'm fiddling with the phone a lot, I might as well put it to good use to express gratitude and put some good vibes out into the universe.

So I'm happy to say I'm using my technology for GRATITUDE! Hey, whatever works. And if you have a favorite app that's creating positive change in your life, I want to hear about it! I've got my phone handy and I'll be sure to check it out.

Let's hear it for the girls!

2011-05-05T11:21:00.000-07:00

A customer of mine passed this along recently. It tied right in with what we had been discussing at our Happiness Project Book Club.

I thought it was definitely worth sharing! And speaking of girlfriend time, I have a great Girl's Night Out planned at our studio tomorrow: What Not To Wear - wine, girl talk and great information about how to dress with less stress and more style. So according to this info, we're not only doing something good for our health, but for our appearance too!

Some girl time last summer - Becky, Tressa & I

Hello Kristen,

A friend of mine just sent me this....Very interesting...we talked about this at our book club.

They Teach It at Stanford

"I just finished taking an evening class at Stanford. The last lecture was on the mind-body connection - the relationship between stress and disease. The speaker (head of psychiatry at Stanford) said, among other things, that one of the best things that a man could do for his health is to be married to a woman, whereas for a woman, one of the best things she could do for her health was to nurture her relationships with her girlfriends.

At first everyone laughed, but he was serious.

Women connect with each other differently and provide support systems that help each other to deal with stress and difficult life experiences. Physically this quality “girlfriend time" helps us to create more serotonin - a neurotransmitter that helps combat depression and can create a general feeling of well being. Women share feelings whereas men often form relationships around activities. They rarely sit down with a buddy and talk about how they feel about certain things or how their personal lives are going. Jobs? Yes. Sports? Yes. Cars? Yes. Fishing, hunting, golf? Yes. But their feelings? Rarely.

Women do it all of the time. We share from our souls with our sisters/mothers, and evidently that is very good for our health. He said that spending time with a friend is just as important to our general health as jogging or working out at a gym.

There's a tendency to think that when we are "exercising" we are doing something good for our bodies, but when we are hanging out with friends, we are wasting our time and should be more productively engaged—not true. In fact, he said that failure to create and maintain quality personal relationships with other women is as dangerous to our physical health as smoking!

So every time you hang out to schmooze with a gal pal, just pat yourself on the back and congratulate yourself for doing something good for your health! We are indeed very, very lucky. Sooooo let's toast to our friendship with our girlfriends. Evidently it's very good for our health."

Just for the fun of it

2011-05-03T05:50:00.000-07:00

On Sunday I participated in the largest recreational bike ride in the country, the Five Boro Bike Tour. It's 42 miles through the five boroughs of NY (hence the name) and about 35,000 people come out to take the ride.

Several people asked me questions about the ride. Are we riding for charity? How long does it take and are we going to beat our time from last year?

To be honest, this is something I do just for the fun of it.

Since we're on year three, we've developed a routine. One of the great things is that I get to spend time with my friend Joe, a friendship that's spanned about 28 years now.The night before we go out for our favorite Fairway turkey burgers with avocado & cheese. We treated ourselves to dessert (since we knew we'd be biking 42 miles the next day). And although we have always had almost identical taste in food, Joe opted for chocolate ice cream and I went for the cupcake.

But wait it's not about the food, the real fun is the ride itself. There is a TON of energy, riders of all ages, crazy outfits (like the gal who rides every year in pumps and fish nets), people cheering us on from the sidelines, gospel singers in Harlem and more.

Two of our teammates, Tim & Chip, make it a point of trying to say hello, and if possible, high five, every bystander. I'm not kidding! I told them we are now not only the Checkered Flag Team but Team Congeniality as well. It's so much fun to see them try to connect with as many people as possible. I tried as to join in as much as possible, but was careful to avoid getting high-fived right off of my bike!

The weather was gorgeous, the atmosphere is electric, the gang I ride with is fun and crazy. It's all just for the fun of it.

The 2011 Checkered Flag Team

Lessons from food envy and other wise thoughts

2011-04-28T06:23:00.000-07:00

As much as I like writing (hence my blogging hobby) I love reading other inspiring blog posts.

This one was passed along to me recently by an old friend and uncle of the author. I met Meggie many moons ago when she probably too young to remember, but likely still eating grilled cheese sandwiches.

Going With Your Gut And Don't Be Afraid to Say No to the Special

Her message 'love what YOU love' struck a chord with me. Whether it's food, literature, movies, going with my gut never steers me wrong!

Musings from the Berkshires

2011-04-27T05:08:00.000-07:00

Photo from http://www.ruth-writes.com/

Last week I made my annual visit to Kripalu which although was long overdue and far too short, was still relaxing and thought provoking.

Here are a few of the lessons and reminders I brought home with me.

Photo from http://www.ruth-writes.com/

Create peace & harmony in your heart - Even 48 hours of R&R can help to create some space in your life and consequently in your mind and body.

Allow healing to occur - When I'm feeling burnt out, both physically and mentally, as I was prior to this trip, I am reminded from the moment I arrive that we need to allow time for healing.

Let it in and go with the moment - As usual I had far too many expectations and plans for this brief 48 hours. In addition to the wonderful workshops and yoga classes, I had plenty of reading, writing in my journal, walking, napping, and who knows what else in mind. Sometimes you just have to GO with the moment and allow things to unfold.

Laugh for no reason - I took a wonderful Laughter Yoga workshop with one of my favorite Kripalu presenters Evelyn Gonzalez. It took me out of my comfort zone for sure! I still laugh every time I think about it. It is a good reminder for me to lighten up!

"Keep the Kripalu" - This is a phrase that pops into my head every time I'm driving home from my visit. What can I do to keep this feeling going? Mediate more? Make some nuts and berries for lunch? Finally master the crow pose?
I don't think so. The real lesson is to continue to make micro-movements toward balance and bring mindfulness off the mat. After all yoga without the breath and mindfulness is just stretching. It's what we practice moment to moment that counts.

Namaste!

Note: I came to this lovely blog www.ruth-writes.com via the Kripalu Facebook page. She captured some beautiful images on her stay. I "borrowed" two of the wonderful Labryinth which I love to wander through. Check out Ruth's blog for more gorgeous Kripalu scenes.

She Did What She Could

2011-04-18T13:28:00.000-07:00

A few weeks ago I attended a wonderful event in support of the Bridgeport Rescue Mission. I invited twenty women with generous hearts and we enjoyed a beautiful inspiring evening along with 650 other women to raise over $185,000 for this important organization.

The keynote speaker was Elisa Morgan, and for weeks her message has been in my mind. Hers is a powerful message and her words have stayed with me, especially since it is the season of Lent.

She Did What She Could

Prior to hearing Ms. Morgan speak, I read her book (pictured above) and I encourage you to read it as well. It's a very quick, simple, but thought provoking read. It is a meditation on an event in Jesus' life and a call to action. It is a reminder of the all the things I could be doing to make a difference. One of the things the author emphasizes in this story Jesus did not say she did ALL she could and I really appreciate that. So often we feel we need to be doing more than we are. Ms. Morgan does a great job of eliminating the all or nothing mentality and challenges us to do OUR best.

It was fitting as the theme of the event was Women Who Can for Women Who Can't. I am blessed to have spent an evening among such fabulous women who CAN, and I hope to take Ms. Morgan's words, as well as those of all the women who shared that evening and do WHAT I can.

Pina & Leslie: Women who CAN

Learn more here

Happiness is always available to you

2011-04-14T07:27:00.000-07:00

Especially in the midst of difficulties, learning to be happy is one of the most important skills we can develop.

One of my dearest friends forwarded an email she received from a friend of a friend who is in Japan right now. She spoke of what her day to day life was like right now I was completely in awe of how she recognized blessings all around her despite the horrific circumstances.

Hopefully she won't mind if I share just a few words from her message....

Somehow at this time I realize from direct experience that there is indeed an enormous Cosmic evolutionary step that is occurring all over the world right at this moment. And somehow as I experience the events happening now in Japan, I can feel my heart opening very wide. My brother asked me if I felt so small because of all that is happening. I don't. Rather, I feel as part of something happening that much larger than myself. This wave of birthing (worldwide) is hard, and yet magnificent.

Happiness and magnificence is truly always available to you

How old does your body think you are?

2011-04-12T05:49:00.000-07:00

"We can actually control our genes and change our bodies and lives on a cellular level, simply through our actions."

Michael Rozien

Do you sometimes FEEL like you're 60 even though you're only 40? Or maybe you have the energy of a 25 year old, but you've already blown the candles out on your big 5-0 cake.

How old does your body think you are?

You could be a little -- or a lot -- younger, or maybe older! Your RealAge is the biological age of your body based on how you have maintained it.

Being in the health & fitness field, I have some pretty good habits, but having recently turned 45, I decided to see just how well those habits are serving me, so I decided take the quiz.

Now, if you decided to take the quiz as well, be completely HONEST with your answers. Otherwise, what's the point?! We all know how we can easily overestimate the amount of exercise we get or how many veggies we eat a day. But let's face the facts, it doesn't help anyone when we fudge our answers.

I was happy to see that I came out eight years younger than I actually am. I was hoping for ten, but that family history gets me every time. The good news is, as the quote above suggests, I can combat that sketchy family history with good choices every day.

Go to www.realage.com and see for yourself. And be brave, and post the results in the comment section below!

Do the thing you think you can not do....

2011-04-10T10:25:00.000-07:00

I LOVE this photo from http://www.yogajournal.com/

This morning I taught the Sunday 9:30 am Jazzercise class at my Center and our latest trainee, Terri, joined me on stage. It's fun to get the gals on stage when they're preparing so they can see things from what will soon be their new vantage point. I also love to see people challenge themselves and set their sights on something wonderful.

What is the one think you think you can not do?

Check out 83 year old Bette Calman rockin' the peacock pose (in pearls no less!).

"I'm proof that if you keep at it, you'll get there. I can do more now than I could 50 years ago," the Australian grandmother.

Let Bette inspire you and take one action toward that one think you think you can not do.

Celebrate every day....now I just need some ideas.

2011-04-07T06:49:00.000-07:00

I just finished reading a wonderful book called Epiphany by Elise Ballard. It is compilation of wonderful essays and I could probably write a blog post about every chapter.

One woman, Wendi Cooper, ended her essay with this wonderful advice.

"It's important for us all to try every day to do something great for ourselves and something great for someone else, and it doesn't matter how big or how small - just something great, every day.

It's important. We all deserve it."

Sounds good. So now I just need to figure what that will be today. I've got a pretty open schedule today. No meetings and everything I'm working on can be done anywhere. What will I do for myself and what will I do for someone else?

What will YOU do to follow this advice ? And if you have any suggestions for me, bring 'em on!

Leave the gun take the cannoli.... OR

2011-03-31T08:51:00.000-07:00

How about leave the guilt, take the help?

This week at our Happiness Project Book Club, there was some discussion about asking for, and accepting, help. As women, we often find this to be a challenge. I know I do. When we do accept help, it seems to be accompanied by a nice dose of guilt.

For almost a year now, I have been battling painful bursitis. My doctor recommends that I have rest periods between workouts, so that my body has time to recover. Have I been heeding that advice? Uh, no! I continue to teach doubles at least twice a week and sometimes even triples. I'm completely ignoring my own mantra of 'listen to your body.' We're short staffed, it's my business after all, and I don't want to impose.....are just some of my excuses.

Lately I've had associates who have been more than willing to teach my Wednesday night time slot in order to help out. WHY do I even debate it with myself? Why not leave the guilt, accept the help?

Another example is an annual get together with girlfriends that I'm hosting tomorrow. Every one of them has offered to bring something. "Oh no, I wouldn't want you to go to any trouble, just bring yourself," I hear myself saying. STOP! Just accept the help and move on!

In our book club discussion we talked about how by refusing help, we actually deprive the other person of the opportunity to do something positive.

This is the lesson I'm currently working on. I graciously accept the offers for coverage for my Wednesday night class (even asking for help on some weeks). Slowly, I'm creating a schedule that works for me physically. And I'm happy to report that a friend is making a batch of sangria for tomorrow night, while another is bringing a fruit salad.

It will be a process to get good at this, but I'm not going to look back. I'm leaving the guilt behind, accepting help, and maybe even picking up some cannolis for tomorrow night.

What mattered this weekend....

2011-03-27T11:50:00.000-07:00


Laughter & smiles from the brunch bunch

I often check in to make sure my time is spent on my priorities. Since I have some free time right now, I'm writing out my lists for the coming week and reflecting on the weekend, determining what still needs to be done and if my time has reflected my priorities.

Here are some of the things that mattered this weekend:

Faith -because of today's crazy schedule I went to mass at a Stamford church. So nice to try something different for a change of pace.

Marriage - MUST make time for date night every week. Last night we had dinner at one of our all time favorite spots then came home to curl up for a "Modern Family" marathon which we've collected on the DVR.

Friends - had a girl's night with a good friend on Friday and enjoyed homemade pizza, wine and watched Burlesque (love that Christina & Cher!) and today met some very special women for brunch. It was a laughter filled, yet inspirational time.

Fitness - kicked off my morning with yoga (awesome!) and am waiting for this afternoon's Belly Dancing workshop to begin.

Health spent a couple of hours yesterday trying some new vegetarian recipes to keep us going for the first part of the week.

Business taught an energetic Jazzercise class, hosted a Casting Call and met with some potential new trainees, plus had a great practice session with our current trainee.

So after a bit of Belly Dancing, it will be time to call my grandfather to check in, get some more laundry going, and enjoy dinner with my husband. Then I'll probably chill out and watch Celebrity Apprentice to see what Star Jones has up her sleeve this week. Now, if I ever start to spend more time on reality t.v. then reality, THAT will be a problem. But it looks to me that time this weekend was well spent on what matters.

This little bird says it all....

2011-03-23T07:18:00.000-07:00

We can't change the weather, so we might as well just go with it. I'm working putting my energy into what I can control. Brings to mind that old serenity prayer, doesn't it?

But think about it for a moment? What would our lives look like if we stopped putting energy to regrets about the past or worries about the future?

Today I choose to put my energy into teaching a high energy class, getting lots of paperwork done, working on a marketing project, buying supplies for the studio, learning some new routines, volunteering at the Soup Kitchen, and cooking a healthy dinner. That's all that I have in my control today.

Where will you put your energy?

Remembering my dad today.....

2011-03-21T11:37:00.000-07:00

(Above: Dad in Hilton Head circa 1989; Below Dad & me in London circa 1984)

Sometimes it's the simplest lessons that stick with us. Today I'm thinking about my dad. I learned so many great lessons from him. Eighteen years have passed and I sometimes have trouble remembering what his voice sounds like. But I do remember many of those lessons, and some of the basic things he stood for no matter what.

Enjoy Life

Do the Right Thing

Have Integrity

Work Hard

Take Risks

Show People You Love Them

Have Faith

Love you Dad!

The urgent question

2011-03-17T07:14:00.000-07:00

Life's most urgent question is, what are you doing for others?
- Martin Luther King, Jr.

I find when I get down, this is a great question to focus on. It helps me to get out of my own way and put my 'troubles' into perspective.

Today I'm going to the Bridgeport Rescue Mission to see what great things are going on there and to learn more. I'm honored to be assisting in their upcoming Hearts of Hope event. The theme of this event is women who can for women who can't.

I'm so excited to be hosting a group of amazing women who all believe in doing for those who can't.

When we ask ourselves that question, the possibilities are limitless.

"Associate with people who are likely to improve you." — Seneca

2011-03-15T12:08:00.000-07:00

It's interesting that I came across this quote this afternoon when returning to my office. Earlier today I had the opportunity to participate in a panel discussion hosted by the Entrepreneurial Woman's Network .

I have been involved with this organization for about ten years now and I value the chance to connect with other successful business women. I undoubtedly learn something each time I attend one of the events. I walk away thinking, "I'm going to try that" or "I've never thought of it that way."

And for a seemingly random segue, last night (I hate to admit ) I watched the finale of The Bachelor. This is as sappy and ridiculous as it gets for reality t.v. The Bachelor upon making his final choice said that Emily "made him want to be a better man." Gee, if I had a dime for every time I heard that one!

BUT, isn't that that really helps us to grow?

As Seneca so succinctly stated "Associate with people who are likely to improve you."

Isn't it always helpful to golf or play tennis with a stronger player? Don't you tend to raise your game? I love taking Jazzercise from the best instructors around. I know that the next class i teach is bound to be excellent.

Whether it's in your personal life or in your career, seeking out organizations EWN that can always teach you something and cultivating relationships with people who help you to be your best can make our lives and our experiences so much richer.

Birthday Blessings.....

2011-03-11T14:57:00.000-08:00

It seems like time is moving so fast lately. A little too much work, not enough balance perhaps. But on Wednesday the Birthday Blessings came in abundance! Now two days later, when I finally have time to string two thoughts together.....I'm struck by the enormity of how truly blessed I am .


Shared this delicious treat over lunch with a friend

With all that is unfolding in the word today, take a moment to recognize and appreciate the blessings around you (p.s. - it doesn't have to be your birthday!).

This is my intention for the week....

2011-02-28T13:27:00.000-08:00

Each week I try to set an intention. Initially I tried to do it daily, but I couldn't remember what the intention was by lunchtime! Now, I choose something for the week. I write it in my planner (yep, even with my fancy iPhone I'm still old school about the planner). Recently I've begun writing it on the chalkboard in our kitchen on occasion. I also use it when I meditate - because I'm the kind of person who needs something to DO while mediating. Yeah, I know.

I got the inspiration from one of my favorite blogs by Brandi Reynolds. After all who doesn't want to be part of a Joy Rebellion!?

What's your intention this week? You can borrow this one, after all, I borrowed it from Brandi!

Things that were good for my soul this week....

2011-02-25T13:55:00.000-08:00

For a lot of people this week was a vacation week, which kicked off with a Holiday. For me it was business as usual, including long hours and several meetings. But as I'm reflecting back on the week, I'm glad I made sure to do things that were good for the soul.....

Participating in our Happiness Project Book club discussion
Teaching six Jazzercise classes
Volunteering at the Soup Kitchen
Baking vegan cupcakes
Shopping with my mom
Booking a plane tix
Taking a yoga class
Having a glass of wine with a good friend after work
Taking a bubble bath
Donating to Education & Hope (I'm always inspired by the wonderful Julie Coyne)
Writing a card to a special friend going through a rough time
Meditating
Having a pizza & movie night with my hubby- at least that's the plan for tonight!

What have you done this week that's good for YOUR soul?

Now THAT'S enthusiasm!

2011-02-22T05:10:00.000-08:00

I couldn't help but smile when I watched this video clip.

Check out the gusto with which this boy conducts his orchestra.

I especially love the ending. When was the last time you approached something with such enthusiasm and total (and I mean total) involvement? He literally throws himself into the moment.

Be inspired! Now it's your turn.

I Wants a Piece of Calico.....

2011-02-21T04:44:00.000-08:00

Nanny and her girls in Newport News 2007

After getting up this morning to see the snow falling and making the necessary arrangements to cancel the morning classes , I brought my coffee back to bed to read and meditate before jumping into this 'snow day.'

Nanny at her 100th Birthday Celebration (2006)

I began thinking of Nanny today, the third anniversary of her death, and the many memories, even little things, like her recitation of her favorite silly poem. When we "played school" we would practice it all the time. When you think about it, memorizing (especially a poem) is really a lost art. I mean who memorizes anything these days with the internet at your fingertips and in your pocket?

Believe it or not I can still recite almost the entire thing, and some days I can't even remember what I had for breakfast! I even made mention of it in the piece I wrote for her funeral mass (see my original post )

So this morning I pulled out my very worn copy of the poem to share, written on yellow legal paper in pencil in Nanny's beautiful Catholic school penmanship.

There are much bigger memories and momentous occasions, but sometimes it's the littlest things that stick with you.

Mattie's Wants and Wishes

I wants a piece of Calico

To make my doll a dress

I doesn't want a big piece

A yard will do I guess

I wish you'd fred my needle

and find my fimble too

I have such heaps of sewing

I don't know what to do

My Hepsie tord her apron

In tumbling down the stairs

An' Caesar lost his pantaloons

He needs a nuzzer pair

My Maude must have a bonnet

She hasn't none at all

Fred must have a jacket

His ozzer one's too small

I want to go to Grandma's

You promised me I might

I know she'd like to see me

I wants to go tonight

She lets me wipe the dishes

And look in Grandpa's watch

I wish I had a penny

To buy some butterscotch

I need some newer mittens

I wish you'd knit me some

My fingers alomost freezes

They leak so at the fum

I wore them out last summer

Pullin' George's sled

I wish you wouldn't laugh so

It hurts me in the head

I wish I had a cookie

I'm hungry as can be

If you haven't got a large one

You'd better bring me free

I wish I had a piano

Won't you buy me one to keep

Oh dear I'm so tired

I wants to go to sleep

When was the last time you....

2011-02-15T14:05:00.000-08:00

...made a new friend?

This was a question I remember my boss asking me many years ago. I don't recall how the subject came up, but we were discussing how easily and often you make friends as a child, but that as an adult there seem to be fewer opportunities. Or maybe it's just that we get settled and don't make an effort. Or we feel that we have all the friends we need. Or we're simply too old for that.

I remember thinking at the time that I didn't want to stop making new friends. That I would always make the effort, take the chance, or seize the opportunity.

Funny, that conversation took place probably twenty years ago, but it has always remained in the back of my mind and I think of it when I meet someone new and the relationship blossoms into a friendship. It's even actually something I reflect on each year when I journal about the experiences of the previous year. Inevitably I can almost always identify a new presence in my life, in fact several people come to mind as I write this.

Last week I had the pleasure of being introduced to someone who I had been told I'd really hit it off with. And we did. It was one of those times when you make an inevitable and immediate connection with someone. That's what making new friends is about. We had a great lunch (plus yummy lavender mint tea), and really wonderful conversation. BUT you have to make the time. It's always easier to look at a full schedule and long to do list and decide to eliminate those things that require a little extra effort. Try it though. It just might be worth the effort. I know it was for me.


Old friends are good too!

Kristen & Beth circa early 70's